I’m ugly, I’m not pretty enough, I’m fat, I’m skinny. I’m depressed!

My last post for this month is going to be a little different from my other previous posts. It’s a special post that i’d like to dedicate to all the beautiful and strong women out there. I’m also writing on behalf of the women that are in our depression facebook page in malaysia that are constantly bullied for their looks their whole life. Thanks for being very brave sharing and putting your world out there.

Why i choose this topic?. As a women myself, i believe all women should be treated right and with much love they deserve in this world irregardless of how they look like or where they came from. Some of us are created weak and some of us are just strong in our different ways. Not every women can stand up for themselves you see. Looks are always often our major objective in life. To be beautiful means to be that particular look that you always picture yourself to be. We’ll do whatever it takes to be beautiful. Beauty hurts doesn’t it?

We live in a world where there is a fine line that cuts the meaning of being beautiful. But if you ask me this question, what is really the meaning of beautiful? There are plenty of blogs out there that teaches you millions of beauty tips, but none will ever tell you how beautiful your imperfect flaws are.

Beauty has no certain or specific kind of look

I live with this saying ” beauty has no certain or specific kind of look”. I’m not going to tell you that you are beautiful no matter what you look like, its cliche and everybody says it. Beautiful to me is not something physical. It’s a self acceptance.

You can spend million of dollars on plastic surgery or beauty make overs. But if you don’t master in your self acceptance you can never be satisfied with how you look. We are imperfect creatures that will never be satisfied with what we have unfortunately.

True meaning of self care

What is an actual self care means? It means spa message, salts baths, manicures, going on shopping spree, and all those pampering things isn’t it?. What if i told you that self care is a broad spectrum term that actually means something bigger than just the idea that we picked up from the usual magazines and books we read?. You see, we are living in a world where the trend demonstrating about self care as something or an action we must take in order to take our mind of the problem at a short period of time.

This trend being demonstrated isn’t an accurate depiction of what self-care really is. Self care actually means an action by a person to preserve or improve one’s own health. It is something personal and has different approach in different people. There are six types of self care that i’m pretty sure everyone has heard of. Its our emotional, physical, practical, mental, social and spiritual self care.

These are the six self care that we must work on with your own rhytm. But this doesn’t mean that all that spa message, bath salts, and shopping isn’t a part of self care. It is also a apart of self care no matter how you would like to think of it as. The term self care itself can be found in almost anything!. For an instance, proper meditation and breathing techniques would help manage your anxieties. Or exercising helps in improve our physical and mental health. In few words self care basically means the key for living a balance life.

Self-care is not selfish. You must fill your own cup before you can pour into others.

Make a habit on checking how full your cup really is. You might be surprised by how low your reserves have gotten. And so before we go on another day putting the needs of everyone else before our own, we should always remind ourselves to put on our oxygen mask first before we help those around us.

After all, you can’t pour from an empty cup, so if we want to be the best version of ourselves who is a whole person, mother, partner, friend, daughter, business-minded, ambitious, engaging, smart… we must learn to fill our own wells first.

Now that we have understand the basic of self acceptance and self care. Why don’t we go deeper into what kind of depression that women all over the world are most likely to get? I’ll be covering this topic in my next post. Meanwhile, thank you my dear readers for the time you spent reading my little piece. I appreciate it very much.

Published by MindSolution

an avid reader, a writer and a resident doctor with bipolar

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